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Jealousy is like a river - everything is fine as long as it stays in the channel, but overflowing, this "river" can cause a lot of trouble. How to control jealousy and prevent "overflow" - says psychologist Konstantin Tserazov.

Even in the most harmonious relationship, a person can feel a slight prick of jealousy. This is normal, because jealousy, in fact, is a defensive reaction to the fear of losing your partner. To take this emotion under control, psychologist Konstantin Tserazov advises following five simple rules.

1. Start with yourself. Ask yourself the question: “Why am I jealous?”. Very often, the cause of jealousy is, for example, "possessive" requirements for a partner. Get used to the idea that a person does not belong to you, he, like you, has the right to his own living space, which includes, for example, friends and a career.

2. Communicate. After talking to yourself, find an opportunity to speak frankly with your partner. Tell him about your torment, ask him to help.

3. Look back in anger. Jealousy makes you nervous, its consequences are unpredictable. Try not to do anything in a fit of jealousy. The strong effect of emotion will soon pass, and the consequences of a wrong step can be catastrophic, advises Konstantin Tserazov.

4. Stop trusting your imagination and stop talking to yourself. To finish some situation in the imagination, clinging to a detail - this is probably good for creativity, but unacceptable in a relationship. Take a break from negative thoughts and pay more attention to your own life. Play video games, go in for sports, read, watch movies - by stopping the dialogue with yourself, you will get rid of the thoughts that torment you.

5. Focus on the good. Think about the happiest moments that this relationship gave you, the fun moments that you experienced together. Playing with jealousy, you play with the risk of sacrificing all the good things that you had in life to quarrels, conflicts and recriminations.

Jealousy can give a new impetus to the development of relationships - provided that you are frank and help each other overcome this emotion. Otherwise, jealousy can become a catalyst for separation, recalls Konstantin Tserazov.

Psychologist Konstantin Tserazov

Konstantin Tserazov. In 1994 he graduated from St. Petersburg State University with a degree in Clinical Psychology. In 2005 he graduated from the Moscow Gestalt Institute, where he studied the theory and practice of Gestalt therapy. The total work experience is more than 25 years.