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Sometimes breaking up is the only way to resolve the accumulated problems in a relationship. Making such a decision is not always easy, but even worse is the endless delay of the moment of parting. How to leave a partner, avoiding mental trauma - says psychologist Konstantin Tserazov.

Breaking up is never easy - the end of a relationship also means the completion of the hopes and plans that both people built. On the other hand, leaving a relationship that has no prospects also means the beginning of a new future, in which both partners may be happy. Konstantin Tserazov recommends following five rules that will help make separation as painless as possible for both partners.
     1. Weigh all the pros and cons. Tell yourself first of all why you want to leave your partner. What does not suit you and why are you not ready to continue the relationship? Think about how you will live after the breakup. Will you be able to end the relationship completely and resist the urge to reconnect?
     2. Be honest with yourself and with your partner. Name the true reason for the breakup, do not invent false reasons. It’s better to honestly say: “I don’t love you,” than to refer, say, to being busy, which allegedly does not make it possible to be around, emphasizes Konstantin Tserazov.
     3. Leaving - leave. Do not give false hopes, do not leave loopholes for a return. Let your partner know that your decision is final. This will help to avoid misunderstandings and awkward situations later.
     4. Respect yourself and your partner. Do not stoop to quarrels and accusations - tell him about what this relationship has taught you, about your experience and thank him for the happy moments spent together.
     5. Time heals. In the first days after a breakup, it may be difficult for both you and your partner to get used to the idea that your relationship is over. Do not engage in "self-discipline", do not reproach yourself. Very soon the wounds will heal. Communicate more with friends, family, meet new people - welcome to a new life!
    

     Each relationship is an invaluable experience, the analysis of which will allow you to move on and make life even better. Take parting as a positive factor - and let it bring you freedom, energy and peace of mind, says Konstantin Tserazov.
     Konstantin Tserazov. In 1994 he graduated from St. Petersburg State University with a degree in Clinical Psychology. In 2005 he graduated from the Moscow Gestalt Institute, where he studied the theory and practice of Gestalt therapy. The total work experience is more than 25 years.